With COVID running a muck this year, most couples have needed to redesign their wedding. While some have postponed their big celebration until next year, most couples are still embracing their love and celebrating with a small intimate wedding this year. Surrounded by their closest family and friends.
Most couples spend hours stressing over who to include on their guest list. While you may want to invite everyone you know to your reception, having only your closest family and friends witness your ceremony would be personal and special. After all, those are the people who have probably helped you and supported you the most in your relationship
Another perk of having a small guest list is that you get to actually spend time with everyone on your list, and make them feel welcomed. How many weddings have made you feel like a stranger fulfilling a social obligation? Small weddings aren’t like that.
When you are surrounded by friends and family instead of a bunch of acquaintances, you feel more at home with your guests. Your wedding will feel more like a celebration with close-knit friends and family, than a production.
A smaller guest list means more creative venue options like bed and breakfasts, museums, art galleries, and restaurants. You can always still have your wedding at a traditional venue, but a small guest list opens up doors when it comes to locations. Why not a State Park, a local park, a garden, or even a hotel patio? The options are endless.
Since you have more flexibility with your venues and your guest lists, why not elope or have a destination wedding instead? Whether your dream is to get married in Iceland, Paris, or the Dominican Republic. It leaves the option open with a smaller guest list. Asking 150+ people to travel or fit within the city hall is a bit trickier.
Some couples choose a small guest list and an intimate wedding not necessarily because their budgets are small, but because they can pull out all the stops and have a truly lavish wedding. You get more ‘wow’ for less cha-ching with a small wedding. When you have fewer guests, you can splurge on the things that really matter to you. For some that might be a five-course dinner, for others, it might be a floral arrangement that covers the entire venue, or maybe a designer wedding gown.
If splurging isn’t in the cards, you can always save money with a small wedding. You can save thousands of dollars by having an intimate wedding, which means you don’t have to go over budget. For many couples, this is the primary reason for scaling back the guest list. A wedding doesn’t need to be lavish and expensive to be beautiful. In the end, the only thing that really matters is that you and your partner are married.
So many couples think that’ they need to invite everyone that they are related to, even though they only met them one or two times. There’s no need to pay $100 per head for dinner to rekindle old friendships. It may make your parents happy, but when you’re sharing your first kiss as a married couple and Miss-in-Everyone’s-Business stares at you with that I’m-totally-Instagramming-this smile. You’ll wish you had chosen closer friends and family to share your day.
When you are creating a wedding that is catered to you and your partner, instead of saving money because the guest list and venue are huge, your day will be rememberable. Your wedding won’t be typical– the kind your guests have been to over and over again – your wedding is more likely to leave an impression with you and your guests.
Yes, you will remember your wedding day for the rest of your life, as you should. But by having a smaller wedding and saving more money, you can spend that money on a honeymoon that you have always dreamed of. You can go on that Europe trip you’ve been talking about. Spend the extra week in Hawaii. Go on that cruise. Plus, those are the moments that you will really remember. The ones that create memories with just you and your partner.
June 29, 2020